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2/19/2008 4:06:34 AM


Interesting stuff I stumbled upon that I believe to be worth sharing.


In the middle of a compromising situation,will you be Defensive or Offensive?


"You can either Ignore them, Antagonize them, Attempt to pacify them, or Address them." - Mack Collier

"Negativity is part of our lives and we can either be victims of it or use it to our advantage.” - Craig Price


Frances Moreno
2/19/2008 4:34:26 AM

(an excerpt)

Most of us love to think that our problems are the result of the actions or in-actions of others, economic conditions, timing and any number of other things outside our control. These things do in fact have a bearing on our situations. They are not however, the root cause. The real problem lies within!

Now that's not something most of us want to hear. It's much easier if we have an excuse or two for the situation, isn't it? Unfortunately while there are always excuses, they seldom help.

Our real enemies are those negative thoughts that creep into our minds unchallenged and hide in the corners, waiting to jump out at us again and again whenever some obstacle appears. We don't want to deal with them so we brood a bit and let them slip by without questioning their validity. Unchallenged they gain strength!

What kind of thoughts are we talking about? It's usually stuff like: maybe I'm not capable of doing this; maybe I have reached my level of incompetence in this job; perhaps I just don't know as much as I thought I did; they are just plain better than me; I never get a fair shot at things; I just don't have enough resources to do the job. Does any of this sound familiar to you?

In my opinion, the worst thing we can do is let thoughts like these slip by unchallenged. Each one, as it occurs, needs to be examined and dealt with. We need to tear them apart and look at them in detail. We need to figure out where they came from and send them right back!

Right about now you are probably thinking that this is just smoke and mirrors. Am I right? Well, I would like you to consider that there might be some substance to this idea. Why not? If you give substance to the idea that - you are not good enough, why not give substance to the idea that - thoughts cause results.

Here is a quote that has always struck me as being very empowering. It is from a book called 'The Miracle of Right Thought' by James Allen.

"Whatever comes to us in life we create first in our mentality.."

Frances Moreno
2/19/2008 4:37:06 AM

Reacting To Given Situations

The milkman knocks at the door of the old lady's apartment. He notices that the door is open. He slightly pushes the door open and finds that she is murdered. His natural reaction to the situation would be to scream with fright, fully shaken up. The fear that someone might blame him, and the fear that the police might interrogate, flashes in his mind. But once he takes control, he begins to respond to the situation by calling the neighbours.

We are forced to react when there is a perceived threat or insecurity, the continuous blocking of our emotions which pops up to the surface at an untimely hour, the non stop advices we receive from persons from whom we expect the least, or we might even want to create our own situations where you love the chaos and confusion.

The results of our reactions are unwanted stress and strain because of adrenalin overflow. The reactions drain us, make us weak and powerless against the situations and we are just puppets in the hands of others. We tend to make hasty decisions and finally end up confused and exhausted.

The only solution is to stop reacting,start responding and taking control of the situations. Learn to manage time and be proactive. Start appreciating your own reactions and be prompt enough to make quick decisions. Stop blaming others and learn to forgive others. Ask yourself why you are reacting and analyse how you can respond. Condition your emotions and feelings and take control of the situation.

To every action there is an equal and opposite reaction but to every action there is an equal and similar response!

(HPriya Sivan)

Frances Moreno
2/19/2008 4:49:04 AM

Accepting Rejected Thoughts
(Tony Mcglinn)

Sometimes we are in a position to look into the lives of other people. It could be through a book, or a movie, or a story we hear, or occasionally it could be someone that we meet. Sometimes when this happens, we see qualities that we truly admire, and we think that we would like to have those qualities. Perhaps we just look at the person and think that we would like to be like them. Maybe we hear what they have said and think that we would like to be able to say things like that. It could be that we would like to have what they have, or do what they do.

When this happens, what we are thinking about are our own rejected thoughts. Sometime in the past we have rejected a thought or thoughts, that the person we are admiring has accepted.

When, perhaps when we were very young, we rejected the thought that we could have what we have just been admiring in someone else, we accepted a lesser thought, and allowed that lesser thought to become part of our self image, and therefore part of our definition of ourselves.

Our self image lives in our sub-conscious mind. Because of the way the sub-conscious mind works, we can only have one self image with regard to any particular quality. If we really want to have the qualities we are admiring, and there is no reason why we can't, then we need to change our self image.

The first step is to be prepared to do just that. Think about this for a minute. Are you prepared to let go of what you have learned in the past, that you believe is true about yourself? By that I mean to examine the ideas that you 'know' are true about yourself, and then to take the new idea that you are considering, and to examine that idea, entertain that idea, to see if it will improve your view of yourself. Will accepting that new idea, and rejecting the idea that you currently 'know', result in a happier, healthier or more prosperous life. If the answer is yes, and you are prepared to do it, then you have the possibility to change your self image.

The methods we use to change our self image is outside the scope of this article, but taking the above actions is the first step.

If you are prepared to go through this process of examining what you 'know' about yourself, and deciding to reject what you 'know' and replace it with a more empowering 'fact', when you see a quality in someone else that you admire, why not do it more often?

Rather than merely listening to the messages, questions and statements that flow past you every day, why not think? Ask yourself what could this mean to me, how could I apply this idea in my life. Forget the questions you have asked in the past like 'Is this right?', or 'Is this wrong?' and ask instead 'Could accepting this idea improve my life in any way?'

Frances Moreno
2/19/2008 4:59:35 AM



One thing, I really have a problem with is criticism. Oh I can do the criticism. That I can do. It's too easy (but that's not today's point!) Receiving it, well that's another story. So, today, from now on, I thought I need to take it like a mature, grown person. I don't want it to bother me so much. How do I do that? Well I started reading up on the subject and this is what I gathered.

This is what criticism does to you.

Criticism is nothing more that an observation made by another person, one that we don't necessarily agree with.

Criticism is directed at our actions and the way we think.

Criticism makes us defensive and wanting to justify our actions. It makes us want to point the finger and so on...

Our defense mechanism takes an enormous amount of mental energy, which usually leaves us angry, hurt, and with negative feelings towards the other person.

How to deal with criticism.

Read this. About agreeing with the criticism ?!?!?

Let say that you simply acknowledge it. OK. Don't believe every single criticism is true or accurate or you will end up feeling like dirt and your self-esteem will turn into mush. No, but sometimes simply agreeing with the criticism will alleviate it.

Two things will happen.

First, someone else has had the opportunity to express himself or herself freely. This person has given you an opinion that you might never have even thought of even though you might not entirely agree with it.

Second, you learn something about yourself, which may be true.

And the best part; no anger, no tension, no hurt feeling. Healthy communication.

Now, how do I accept criticism?

I tried it with my spouse. Here is the conversation:

Him: "You are always late!" The famous "YOU". I reflected for 5 seconds and replied:

Me: "You are right, I am often late." Because it's true, I tend to be late occasionally, well? often.

It's was much easier to agree than to defend myself; and a good point was made (I can be more punctual, I know I can do better).

No hard feelings or anger and that was that. What a difference.

Reacting negatively automatically to criticism will have nothing but a negative effect. Acknowledging criticism and really considering it will lessen conflict and miscommunication.

I can live with that.

Can you try it?

Till next time,


"To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, be nothing."
-Elbert Hubbard

"If you have no critics you'll likely have no success."
-Malcolm X

"Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a man's growth without destroying his roots."
-Frank A. Clark

Ref: The Muse -Motivational News

Leofina Jane Galleta
2/19/2008 6:16:58 AM

My golly, the nicey nice girl is here to stay, Welcome to blog city Frances, :-) Nice stuff you posted in here, huh...:-)

Ei, let this be something for your "house warming",:-)

Seize To Zest

To Grab
With enthusiasm,
To dislodge
Then, conquer...

To seize
With Zest, is
To defy
By indifference.


2/19/2008 10:36:56 AM

Hi, Frances, I read about your blog in LJ's blog, then sinisiimko isuna
sako sinurot ditoy.

Dimmagasak ta nakitak ngamin nga adda imbatim nga comment idiay sinuratko dita sango (THE GALLETA). I tried responding ngem diammota
madi met nga kumpet dadiay sungbatko diay saludsodmo. Isu nga
ditoy ti pangsungbatakon diay saludsodmo. The answer to your query is

Agsubliakto ket biko datoy kamisetak...

Imelda Alibuyog
2/20/2008 2:15:12 PM

adda nagngegko nga tambor ket sinurot ko no adinno,ket ditoy met ngayam kappatakder nga abong ni Frances...umayakman met makihouse warming basang? adda met balon ko a makan,sinanglaw, pulutan etc,no adda mainom ket idasarmo ta respetarenmi ken Lj.

Ading Lj apay a dinak dinagas itay immayka ditoy?dapat inkidagmo kanyak..ading no kasta met nga adda mapanmo pakipanganan a ket umaymo ikidag kanyak!

Bu,maykan ta uminom ta madi met kayat ni LJ ti uminom...

Have a nice day

Frances Moreno
2/21/2008 5:10:47 AM

Wow, c",) tnx po for gracing my pages!!! Been reading stuff in here guys, my mother is an Ilocana, and my father is Tagalog. I want to learn Ilocano so I decided to join you guys here.I can speak ilokano ngem bassit lang. lol.

BU, Ms. Imelda tnx! Nice meeting you both. c",) Ate Jane, this is cool!

Gosh, exciting pala dito. People are so warm and friendly.

Ate Jane became a good friend mula nung magkakilala kami in person. I was checking stuff at google when I came across her bloggers site. naka link 'tong website dun. Tapos my group are sponsoring kids at World Vision, e di ba working sya dun..tapos I read her poetry dyan sa them grabe.. Tapos sobra siyang approachable tsaka super nice sa amin, so ayun, na-ecourage ako to know more about ilocano stuff.

Cencya na po kayo, medyo saan ko ammo ti agsurat ti ilokano bassit lang. LOL.

tnx po, c",)

Frances Moreno
2/21/2008 5:18:59 AM

BU...Bert Ugalino..?? Yeah, tnx sir c",) I knew it!!! Di kasi siya sumasagot pag tinatanong ko siya, LOL. She deserves it, di ba Sir?

Manang Imelda (can I also call you po Manang Imelda like them?) tnx for the housewarming LOL. Cali ti adda Ate,tsaka chippy, LOL.

Kakatuwa kayo dito para kayong nagbabahay-bahayan.

Naragsak ditoy "blog city"! c",)

2/21/2008 10:50:05 AM

good to see you here again.
i understand you're just "leasing" your "place" for now, but when
you decide to "build" your place to stay, we'll throw you a
big "blog party"...

there are still some "view lots" in the most prestigious section
of Blog City, on Barroga Boulevard... where you could be neighbors with apo webbie...

welcome again.

Marvin Acosta
2/24/2008 1:31:23 AM

miss frances, wala lang... dumalaw lang 'po. mahihiya ni si ako, kasi di ako mahusay magsalita nang tagalog, mahinhin talaga si ako. sana'y pwede iluko na lang ang pagsalitako. mas fluent ang dating, hak! hak! hak!

Imelda Alibuyog
2/24/2008 3:58:31 PM

Frances Moreno
2/27/2008 11:31:24 AM

Hello po, kumusta kayo amin, c",)

Sir BU, thanks very much. I want to learn how to write verses too. Mr. Marvin, I'm trying to learn Iluko. Mabalin kadi nga ag-ilokano kayo latta para makasursuro nak nga nalaing. I saw you at Ate Jane's blog,she messed up with her own. She told me she can't even access it. Ate Imelda thank you for the nice presentation. c",)

2/27/2008 5:16:35 PM

ask ms. galleta, i deeply admire her poetry.
come to think of it, i'd ask her, too...

warmest regards to all...

Marvin Acosta
2/28/2008 1:24:03 AM

miss frances, ty, miss! agiluko-ak ngaruden wen? 'bagam ken kumarengski lj ta umayko tulungan a mangsukat diay lock ti abongna. free labor.

'imbag a malemyo kakabsatski!

Leofina Jane Galleta
3/4/2008 10:01:00 PM

knock knock!!!! Ces, awanka, addaak, hehe!

Agposte iti Iluko tapno makapraktis ka ala.:-)

Heyyo Manangski Imee, BU, parengski marvin,:-)

3/7/2008 4:50:03 PM

Nice postings, Frances.

3/19/2008 11:54:25 PM

H. Klinton vs. Obama. How you think who will win elections in USA?


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